Meet people at their level. One of the things that I’ve learned over the years is that you can’t expect everyone to be on your level, in any regard. What makes sense to you, may be complete gibberish to others.
Through the course of my work, I often interact with individuals from different walks of life, and I have learned just how important it is to be objective. Sometimes people just need a listening ear, and not to have someone talk at them. I’m always reminded of the saying that goes along the lines of “we don’t listen to understand, we listen to respond.” How many times have you been in a conversation and heard the first part, but then completely zone out because you already know how you want to respond? I’m guilty of this, and have been working on being a more active listener.
I know the feeling of walking away from a conversation feeling like you didn’t get your point across, and truthfully it sucks. We all want to be valued, and how better can we get our points across than having a fulfilling dialogue, rather than a one sided conversation?
When I’m meeting new clients, I remind myself that it is important to remain engaged, so that I can fully connect with the person. Sometimes I find that they are fearful of opening up, because they worry that I have already formulated my opinion of them and their situations. They’ve become so accustomed to being judged, that they fear expressing themselves.
How can we expect to coexist when we can’t even give others the freedom to be their true selves? Why is every disagreement being made into such a big production? I miss the days when you could have differing opinions and it didn’t turn into a big ordeal.
I miss the days when majority of people weren’t assholes, or at the very least, were more capable at disguising it.
That’s all..Rant over. I hope you have a wonderful evening, and a good weekend.